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  1. This really resonates with me as I am a people pleaser and avoid conflict as much as possible. It’s really hard to break those habits and I love all of your suggestions!

    Jill – Doused in Pink

    1. So glad this was helpful, Jill! I hope you had a great week.

  2. Martha, This has so much great and applicable information! I struggle with being a people-pleaser – and your tips on practicing saying “no” and swapping the negative with a positive – and being prepared with alternatives – and not feeling like you have to give immediate answers – are all great solutions!

    1. Practicing saying no and not feeling pressured to respond immediately has been really helpful for me. I’m so glad you like these recommendations, Lisa!

  3. This is such a timely post especially as social calendars and other obligations begin to increase as people are vaccinated. Taking time to respond always helps me!

    1. Thanks, Laura! That’s a good point about obligations and social events beginning to increase as things begin to improve.

  4. Women tend to be people pleasers and I am no exception! I am a 2 on the Enneagram so pleasing others is a big part of my personality. Been working on it and learning to take care of myself. I am not afraid of conflicts so watch out! Lol! Thanks for such an insightful post!

    1. So true, Kathrine! I’m glad you are learning to take better care of yourself and that you’re not afraid of conflict, lol:)

  5. Learning how to say no and being OK with it can be the toughest thing! I know it’s taken me a long time to achieve it for myself. Thanks for these tips!


    1. It can indeed be challenging, especially for women. That’s why I was excited to write this post. It’s good to hear that you got to a place where you are comfortable with saying no, Shauna.

    1. Exactly, Lovely! I completely agree. Thanks for stopping by:)

  6. This post is SO good, Martha. I felt connected to so many of these points because I’ve certainly experienced people-pleasing tendencies. It’s still a battle for me. As you know, healthy boundaries are something that I’ve fought with recently. I’ve always found it hard to say ‘no’ more often than I should, but I’m learning how to handle that better and prioritize what my needs too.

    Wishing you the brightest day, my friend!

    Make Life Marvelous

    1. Thanks for the kind words, Ashley! I’m so glad you are making progress with creating healthier boundaries and with saying no. I hope you have a wonderful week ahead!

    1. Thanks for stopping by, Angelica!

  7. Wow great post and quite helpful. This always seems to be more of a problem with women. Women really need to learn to have boundaries I guess it is partly the mothering instinct. But we do also have to please ourselves too.

    Allie of

    1. Thanks, Allie. I’m happy you found this helpful, and I agree it’s an area most women struggle with.

    1. Martha Correa says:

      Hi Tiziana, that’s one I used to struggle with too. I often had those knee-jerk reactions and then regretted it. Great to hear that you’re working on it:)

  8. omg, I should totally send this post to my boyfriend. It seems he cannot say not anyone (well, except me haha). he is the biggest Monica Geller there ever was.

    I’m happy to hear you’re working on yourself to be more firm. Honestly, people also respect you more when you put limits and know how to say no.

    Ana Palombini |

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